Monday, March 6

Michael is going to SJSU!

We got Michael's college acceptance letter today. I think Gwen looks happier than her big brother about this news! Actually, she's just happy to be near him and that's not always to his liking. But we're hoping that as they both continue to mature together, they'll someday be the best of buddies.

I appreciate all of the nice comments and helpful advice about my two kiddos! I'm a lucky mom and my kids are wonderful! Even the big grumpy one!


Blogger Kathleen said...

I'm a first time poster but long time reader... I think you son might just need some attention... Think, he was the only one for 18 years and then along comes Gwen. Yes, he is to old to act this way, but he is a boy, and well.... Anyway, I am sure you have tried to get to the bottom of his true feelings but try, try and try again. I am sure once he looks back at it he will be sorry for how he acted. Is there anyway that he might be thinking that once he is gone you won't miss him and that he is being replaced. I know this isn't the case but sometimes the build things up in our minds and it can spin out of control. I am sure deep down he loves Gwen! Keep talking to him. Gwen is a doll and you can't help but fall in love with her. Hope you don't mind my two cents worth...

Take care, Kathleen

March 07, 2006 9:51 AM  
Blogger Lissa and Russell said...

Hey, Micheal congratulations!! You will LOVE college...make sure you take at least one theatre class though!

March 07, 2006 11:37 AM  
Blogger LindaJ said...

Congrats on getting your acceptance letter. what a exciting time!!!

Babies are dumb somtimes. We were all babies and hopfully nobody made you feel dumb for something that you can't help being....Human.

March 07, 2006 12:22 PM  
Blogger Dunn Family said...

I didn't read the comments before you deleted them, but I can imagine what they said. All I can say is: "Been there, done that."

Actually everyday!

Hang in there! They don't really teach you how to deal with a teenager when you first have that baby!

My favorite saying: He has never been 18 before, and I have never been a parent to an 18 year old before... we have to figure this out together.

You know he is just trying to figure out where he "fits in". My boys are struggling every day, I can only imagine how it would be if there were a new sister to deal with! Oh Boy! You are doing a great job, keep up the good work!

March 07, 2006 2:52 PM  
Blogger PeiLien said...

On a happy note....Congrats to Michael for his acceptance into big step. I'm sure in time things will get of a teenager.

March 07, 2006 7:05 PM  
Blogger Shelley said...

College is a blast Michael. You'll grow so much during these years. Enjoy every moment of this new chapter in your life.



March 07, 2006 9:46 PM  
Blogger Stacey Teague said...

We adopted my sister when I was 10. I hated her. I wanted my life back without the "shhhh" and all the attention she was getting....she was not cute to me at all. She is now 30 and I, 40. We love eachother now, but it took a LONG time!!!!

March 08, 2006 8:53 AM  
Blogger Bridget said...

I am the oldest of nine children. for the longest time I have been pushed to the sidelines. Even now, at 32 years old, I talk to my mother on the phone maybe once every two weeks or so and only for about five minutes because she has to go take care of one of my siblings (three of which are younger than my own kids!!!). I will freely admit that I was bitter towards it for a long long time. I just recently came to a place in my heart where I stand back and say "no more! I will not be bitter any longer!"

Yes, this blog was about the adoption of your precious daughter Gwen and now the second daughter Madelyn. But it is very very rare to hear or see anything mentioned about your firstborn and the joy that he brings to your life. I understand a bit how he is feeling. Here he is becoming a man in his own right - something that is very important and difficult to go through without any added turmoil! I'm sure he loves his sister. But there may be some resentment as well. It's plain as day to see in those pictures there. Gwen obviously loves her big brother and at her age is clueless to how he is feeling.

I'm sure you as his parents are not deliberately neglecting him. I"m not there, so I don't know me head from my tush when it comes to your life. I do know that I love reading your blog and you seem like the type of person that would appreciate honest opinions. So, I'm giving you my honest opinion based on what I have read and see via the picture, and based on my own experience as an older sister who has been pushed further back on the shelf with each sibling that was born. I do know how that part feels. It's not fun in the least. However, as we grow older, get married, and have multiple children of our own, we see how a parents' love for us is not replaced and redirected to the siblings. There is enough to go around. And at some point, Michael will be able to recognize that as well......

My intention with my post is not to offend you at all. I just wanted to give my honest assessment. Please, if it offended you, let me know and feel free to delete it.

Michael, congratulations on being accepted in to college. that had to take a lot of hard work to accomplish and as you now see hard work and perseverance pays off in the end. I know your parents are so completely proud of you!! do you have any idea what you are gonna major in yet? I can't wait to hear how you are doing with each semester that passes!! Keep up the hard work! congrats again and God bless your new adventure!!

March 08, 2006 9:19 AM  
Blogger Jana said...

Bridgets comment above seems pretty accurate to me. I've never been an older child...i'm the youngest, but Michael was the "apple of your eye" for 17 years and suddenly that all changed. I can imagine how hard that must be on him. I'm sure he loves Gwen but he's not the one getting all the attention anymore and he's got some mixed feelings about it. Gwen looks so happy on his lap, i have to smile....she's always so happy.
What college is Michael going to be going to? Tell him congratulations for me....i'm proud of him and his accomplishments.
Hang in there. I've got a 16 year old son and i know it isn't always easy....
Love to you all,

March 09, 2006 3:17 PM  
Blogger Donna said...

Thanks for your comments everyone. I do appreciate what you're saying to me but I should also mention that Michael isn't the kind of kid who likes being the center of any type of attention! He's a very private person and he's genuinely uncomfortable when pressured to perform a certain way in public. Displays of affection are very hard for him and they always have been. He love us and he puts up with us but he doesn't want to hang out with us.

He doesn't read this blog and would be horrified if I posted cutesy stories about him here. Frankly, he doesn't really do cutesy stuff anymore anyway unless you're amused by "body noises" :)

He's going to San Jose State University.


March 09, 2006 4:20 PM  
Blogger asiangarden said...

You are right, it is soooo hard to be a teenager! thank god I don't have to go back!! haha. I also have two daughters and an older son,I constantly have to reassure my son that he is my first baby boy!
Congratulations to Michael!!

March 10, 2006 1:22 PM  

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